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I posted a version of this on my personal Facebook page, and just felt inspired and guided to post it here.
Lately, I am literally allergic to excuses it seems. I start to cough or sometimes, I feel like I’m about to choke if I start to say anything that smacks of me arguing for my limitations. The thing is that the ego can always come up with something to explain why I have done or not done something.
I’ve pondered the idea of excuses more than usual this week. When arguing last week with someone, I was quite stressed. But, I was even more stressed and shocked when they apologized, citing their behavior being due to being tired and having some type of non-serious, temporary physical condition.
“Wait, a second, are you SERIOUS?”–This is what I wanted to write. But, instead, I just apologized back and found myself writing: “I apologize too. However, I’m not going to make any excuses for myself.” I found myself rather surprised when I wrote this, but I realized it was a directive from my wiser self guiding me to do better in life.
Why do we feel that we have to excuse our behavior? I just can’t make excuses any more. I also can’t take others making excuses. Just tell me the real reason you can’t or won’t do something. Just be REAL. Don’t try to sugar coat things. Just be honest! Don’t lie either–I am psychic, you know (This last part about being “psychic” is mentioned to get you to laugh or smile.)
Here’s some excuses that I just can’t tolerate any longer:
“Work stresses me out.”
“I have ADHD and totally forgot!”
“It runs in my family.”
“I didn’t realize…”
“I don’t have childcare.”
“I’m getting old.”
“I’m too young.”
“I’m not in shape.”
“I don’t have time.”
“I don’t have the money.”
“I’ve been this way since I was a kid.”
“My parents messed me up.”
“I have…[insert condition or ailment]”
“I am just not good at it.”
“I can’t forgive [insert name or names].”
“I’m just not able to be nice right now.”
“I have anger issues.”
“The dog ate it.”
I could go on, but chances are, you get it And…
Well, good for you! If you have made excuses, at least you’re embracing your humanity. But, why argue for your limitations any longer? Why not just be okay with who you are? Why not just be lovingly honest?”
Even if your excuses were true, the thing is…You still have CHOICE as to how you behave. You can choose how you treat others. Each time you’re loving and honest, you plant good seeds that will grow positively for you too. What comes around, goes around.
But, I’d prefer you’d take your busy, constipated [or insert your own condition here], tired, overworked self elsewhere. I’m too busy being HAPPY and having FUN to listen to you bitch any more.
If this offends you, chances are, you’ve hurt someone in the past from your excuses. You’ve hurt yourself as well. I’ve been there too. I’ve made excuses for my behavior. We’ve all done it.
But, I think a new way is needed. Let’s stop the cycle of excuses. It’s so out of style. Honesty, truth, and integrity never go out of style. Actually, I really believe our planet is evolving into more of us speaking our truths lovingly. If you do it with love, you can’t go wrong
Thanks for listening.
Blessings and peace,
© 2010 by Lisa, the Punk Rock Psychic™