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I Never Did This to Become Famous

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Jul 10, 2013 , , , 2 Comments

It’s been a while since I blogged here, I know. In case you didn’t know, I’ve been a bit busy the past two years, getting my book, A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide written and then, published by Hay House, Inc. I’ve also been on my author website, blog, and social media more than here.

I felt inspired by something from Facebook yesterday on my Punk Rock Psychic™ fan page. I wrote a couple of short sentences. I think it was, “I never got into psychic work to become famous. I just do it ’cause I enjoy it.”

A person or two “unliked” my page, which made me start thinking. (I’m not sure why I noticed, hahaha!)

Actually, I’ve been mulling over this stuff about “fame” for quite a while…

Fame has never been for me. I’m the type of person who was never one of the “cool kids” in school. I’ve rarely enjoyed anything that the masses like. I tend to be a hermit and like to fly under the radar.

I’ve studied with well-known teachers in my field. Even though I’ve always been psychic, I wanted to understand how my psychic senses worked. So, I read and took classes for many years. It was one of my passions.

Along the way, I’ve encountered egos. I mean, we all have an ego, right? We’re human. I get it. Thing is…it’s just stung more when I’ve met those in my field with big ego personalities. My own ego internally is saying, “This is sacred work. It’s spiritual. Why are people acting this way?” I mean, you expect the egoic behaviors in the traditional, corporate world, but not in the psychic industry. I think I might toss my cookies if I see another psychic talking about being “99% accurate” or “internationally known,” etc. (I’ve done readings on a cruise ship in the middle of the Carribean, does this make me “internationally known”?).

I’ve had other, fellow psychics at events be rude to me. I also have witnessed teachers of mine not being very “enlightened” in their dealings with their students and staff. I guess it surprised me. I thought everyone would be, well, nice.

I’ve attended both national and local based events with psychics just for fun, noticing how enamored the audience gets with psychics. I mean, you see it on television shows too? It all comes off as a glamorous field. Then, those of us with well-known teachers might aspire to be in their shoes one day. Some of my friends have wanted to “be famous like our teachers.”

Everyone has different reasons for wanting fame. Some want the money or financial security. Others might like the prestige or feel like they have the good reputation or seal of approval or social proof. Or, perhaps, is it the American dream wanting to be fulfilled?

I have met people who use their fame for good. The type of people who are giving back and making a difference in the world with their causes and charity work. I’ve met some famous people who are similar to Oprah, helping emerging folks by giving them shout outs or perhaps, giving them a bit of advice. This is the type of fame that is pretty cool and the only type that feels right in my heart. These people didn’t act like “divas” or put on airs or act like they were better than anyone else. People who are in integrity with their fame are kind and generous, at least to me.

During my book publication process, I received a few private messages and emails from critics. I had some say that I “sold out” as a punk rocker getting traditionally published. I had some say, “Oh, you did this to be famous.”

That second one really made me stop in my tracks. When I received my book contract, I was so stoked ’cause it meant that I’d have an opportunity to share my message I wanted to share for 15 years and help more people (women especially).

I never sat there thinking, “Oh, yay! I’ll now be famous!” And, I definitely never thought, “Oh, I’ll be on Oprah!” I never thought, “Oh, yay, I’ll be rich too!” (Ha ha ha! If you are a first-time author, whether self-published or conventionally-published I’m sure you are laughing your ass off by now?).

When I received my book contract, here’s what else I thought:

“I can’t wait to empower more women.”

“I’m going to meet more of my tribe!”

“I get to help others.”

“I get to live more of my life purpose.”

I never started my psychic biz to become famous. I never started my book journey in order to be famous. I think fame is overrated.

I also think that far too many people in the Western world have a fixation with famous people’s lives. I know I’ll sound judgmental, but I can’t even fathom sitting down wasting time, numbing my brain to watch television shows like “The Kardashians.” I’d rather clean my bathroom, hahaha!

Some in society, even in the psychic industry have a bit of the Rock Star Syndrome. They fantasize about it would be like to be a household name and about all the privileges that come with it. So, they might start hanging out with famous people, taking their classes and trying to get into their inner circle. Then, all of a sudden, everyone in the circle starts acting like the teacher is a rock star. (I mean, Keith Richards or Slash, they are rock stars. Not many others are, hahaha!)

When I myself took classes with well-known teachers, it wasn’t to have the association with their name. It was ’cause I just enjoyed their work. To be honest, back when I took the classes, these teachers weren’t very well-known.

I’m not saying there is anything wrong with being famous or wanting to be famous. I’m just saying that it’s not for me. I myself can’t imagine all of the effort to get there. I can’t imagine living with worries of being scrutinized. As a private person, I wouldn’t want to have to cloister myself even more. When some in the media refer to someone being the next Sylvia Browne or John Edward, I feel so much compassion. I mean, if it were me being mentioned as the next, emerging star, I’d want to be referred to as, “The next Lisa.”

The thing is, if  you are so focused on fame, you might miss out on cool things and people. Your attention is focused inward, which to me, makes it harder to think about helping others. It makes your work about you, not your clients.

I say define success for yourself. Create and live by your own definitions. Have a vision and yes, have intentions to be a success, but ask yourself from time to time, “Who’s definition of success is this?” Just ask yourself as a gut check. See what answers you get.

I almost became sucked into the numbers game myself. I was measuring my success by the number of books sold, my number of blog comments, and social media numbers. Not very punk rock at all!

Yet, one day, seemingly out of the blue, I had the following thought, “What if I really helped 500 women to really kick ass and change their lives? Wouldn’t this be better than if 40,000 women bought my book and took no action?! Wouldn’t this be better than being “famous”? And, wouldn’t this be tons better than having 10,000 Twitter followers?”

WTF?! What ever happened to helping others and making the world a better place?

As I type this, I’m tempted to tell you all of my horror stories about dealing with “famous” people from a variety of fields. But, you know what? It won’t help me. It won’t help you. Thing is, that we are all human and learning. We’re not perfect. That has been my biggest lesson of the past 20 years. No one is perfect. Also, I’ve learned to never put anyone on a pedestal. They will fall down with a loud thud.

At the end of the day, I’d rather know that I really helped bring more love and light to the planet and that I helped to empower some folks from a genuine, heartfelt place.

So, you can take fame.

You can have it.

Give it to someone else.

Rock on,

Lisa, Punk Rock Psychic™

©2013

http://punkrockpsychic.com


I’m Done Administering Psychic First Aid!

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Oct 15, 2010 , , , , , 9 Comments

(I'm done with Psychic First Aid! photo credit: c.a.s.e.y, Flickr, Creative Commons License)

I’ve been pondering the Big Stuff lately in my own life.  I’ve contemplated my life purpose over several cups of coffee over the past month.  Caffeinated thoughts of mine have surfaced about what annoys me about the psychic industry.  I’ve also been asking myself, “How can I best serve others with my skills and talents?”

I’ve meditated and journaled quite a bit in order to gain clarity on these subjects.  I prefer to do this before I blog about anything really personal that requires me to speak my truth so honestly.  I only can be honest!  So, here we go…

I just have to come out and say that I’m done administering Psychic First Aid!

After all of my self-reflection, I feel peaceful admitting this to you.  You might be wondering what I mean by “Psychic First Aid”?

Psychic First Aid is my blanket term for when you want a reading on the big life stuff, but you just want me to:

–Tell you what will happen, so you don’t have to make a decision.  (Your choices are yours to make.  I only can give you information that helps you to make your own best decision!)

–Make your decisions for you!  (Again, it is up to you to make the decision that feels right for you.  I honor your free will–always!)

–Tell you that everything will be okay, so you don’t have to do any work on yourself.  You can’t change another person, so you have to work on healing things on your end.  It is always about YOU, not the other person.

–Put a little bandaid on a big, gaping and/or gushing emotional, mental, or spiritual wound.  (Did you ever think of the possibility that you might need counseling or another professional to help you?)

–Spy on another person to tell you what he or she is thinking, so you don’t have to talk to them! (Just so you know, I don’t ever psychically “spy” on others because this is not ethical, at least in my eyes!)

–Tell you in the span of 15 minutes or less (in phone readings) what your life purpose is, which dead people want to talk to you, when you’ll meet your soulmate, and when you will get your dream job–all in one reading!  (Do you really think 15 minutes is enough time to get into all of these areas?  Order a longer reading!)

–Tell you more details about the same situation you just had a reading on recently.  If you get frequent readings on the same issue, chances are, you will get the same information over and over again–until you change your life by taking other action.

–Tell you how to win the lotto or create financial windfalls.  No, I don’t have the lottery numbers, winning horses’ names, etc.  I also have no idea where the hidden money is or whether you have an inheritance coming.  I don’t know when your welfare or child support check is coming (I refuse to let you pay for a reading on these things!  Save it for something important–like food!)  Why not create your own windfall by busting your butt?  I can give you a reading about how you might use your skills and talents to create more income in addition to your job or other sources of income. Hard work never hurt anyone, by the way.

–Tell you whether you will get a certain job.  Why put your eggs in one basket?  Keep on looking, sending out resumes, and hitting the pavement.  Sooner or later, you will land that dream job!  The thing is, I only can give you a reading on what you can do to help this process along.

So, you get the point.  There are limitations with psychic readings!  However, you are a limitless being with potential and the ability to create your own future.  I’m not a magician or a fairy godmother.  I don’t have some wand to wave to make it all better.

Sometimes, you have to help yourself.  You have to take action (get off the couch!) to create a better life.  At times, you don’t need a psychic.  You might need a psychologist, financial advisor, job coach, or even a friend or family member’s listening ear.  A psychic reading is just one step towards clarity. The rest is up to you, baby!

I’m done administering Psychic First Aid.  I’m not here to wave a magic wand to make it all better.  I’m here to give you serious, loving messages from the divine about how to realize more of your potential.  I’m here to help you to tap into your core gifts, skills, and talents.  I’m here to give you guidance about how to create your awesome, ideal life.  I’m here to give you guidance on how to make your dreams come true.  I’m here to tell you about how to remove blocks that are holding you back.

I’m not a fortune teller or some sideshow or dog and pony act!  I’m here to give you serious readings that rock your world.  From now on, I only desire to work with clients who have a true, sincere desire to transform, along with desiring some serious guidance about how to heal, move forward, and evolve spiritually.

My belief is that if you get a deep, transformative reading, you don’t need to get frequent psychic readings.  Everyone is different when it comes to the frequency of getting readings.  But, I don’t allow a dependency on my reading services.  I will let you know if you are getting readings too much.  I become annoyed at some in the psychic industry.  They want you to get frequent readings to pad their pockets.  This dishonors you as a person.  You might not be empowered to learn how to follow your own guidance.  You might not learn how to make your own decisions.  This is a shame because it not only dishonors you, but it costs you money, and often, a lot of it!

This blog post is just a heads-up about the types of readings that I’m not willing to do any longer.  I also will be phasing out of shorter readings.  I also most likely will phase out of charging by the minute (there are other options currently if this per-minute type of readings doesn’t resonate).  I find that charging by the minute doesn’t vibe well with my personal beliefs and ethics.  Chances are, I only will be offering 45-minute phone readings in the very near future.  Also, email readings will be changing in some way too.  I’m still working out the details.

So, watch for some changes in my services.  Stay tuned for details.  If you are on my email list, you will know first.  If not, sign up to get the news first.  There is a sign up box on the right side sidebar.

And, be prepared to have your questions (in readings) questioned.  I frequently rephrase your questions.  For example, if you ask about whether your spouse is cheating on you, I will rephrase the question to be:  “What do you need to know about how to best heal your marriage?”  This gets better results and higher quality guidance for you.  After all, it is about YOU, not the other person, as I mentioned.

Thanks for allowing me to share some of my caffeinated thoughts!

Blessings and gratitude,

Lisa

©2010 by Lisa, the Punk Rock Psychic™, http://punkrockpsychic.com/


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