It’s been a while since I blogged here, I know. In case you didn’t know, I’ve been a bit busy the past two years, getting my book, A Rebel Chick Mystic’s Guide written and then, published by Hay House, Inc. I’ve also been on my author website, blog, and social media more than here.
I felt inspired by something from Facebook yesterday on my Punk Rock Psychic™ fan page. I wrote a couple of short sentences. I think it was, “I never got into psychic work to become famous. I just do it ’cause I enjoy it.”
A person or two “unliked” my page, which made me start thinking. (I’m not sure why I noticed, hahaha!)
Actually, I’ve been mulling over this stuff about “fame” for quite a while…
Fame has never been for me. I’m the type of person who was never one of the “cool kids” in school. I’ve rarely enjoyed anything that the masses like. I tend to be a hermit and like to fly under the radar.
I’ve studied with well-known teachers in my field. Even though I’ve always been psychic, I wanted to understand how my psychic senses worked. So, I read and took classes for many years. It was one of my passions.
Along the way, I’ve encountered egos. I mean, we all have an ego, right? We’re human. I get it. Thing is…it’s just stung more when I’ve met those in my field with big ego personalities. My own ego internally is saying, “This is sacred work. It’s spiritual. Why are people acting this way?” I mean, you expect the egoic behaviors in the traditional, corporate world, but not in the psychic industry. I think I might toss my cookies if I see another psychic talking about being “99% accurate” or “internationally known,” etc. (I’ve done readings on a cruise ship in the middle of the Carribean, does this make me “internationally known”?).
I’ve had other, fellow psychics at events be rude to me. I also have witnessed teachers of mine not being very “enlightened” in their dealings with their students and staff. I guess it surprised me. I thought everyone would be, well, nice.
I’ve attended both national and local based events with psychics just for fun, noticing how enamored the audience gets with psychics. I mean, you see it on television shows too? It all comes off as a glamorous field. Then, those of us with well-known teachers might aspire to be in their shoes one day. Some of my friends have wanted to “be famous like our teachers.”
Everyone has different reasons for wanting fame. Some want the money or financial security. Others might like the prestige or feel like they have the good reputation or seal of approval or social proof. Or, perhaps, is it the American dream wanting to be fulfilled?
I have met people who use their fame for good. The type of people who are giving back and making a difference in the world with their causes and charity work. I’ve met some famous people who are similar to Oprah, helping emerging folks by giving them shout outs or perhaps, giving them a bit of advice. This is the type of fame that is pretty cool and the only type that feels right in my heart. These people didn’t act like “divas” or put on airs or act like they were better than anyone else. People who are in integrity with their fame are kind and generous, at least to me.
During my book publication process, I received a few private messages and emails from critics. I had some say that I “sold out” as a punk rocker getting traditionally published. I had some say, “Oh, you did this to be famous.”
That second one really made me stop in my tracks. When I received my book contract, I was so stoked ’cause it meant that I’d have an opportunity to share my message I wanted to share for 15 years and help more people (women especially).
I never sat there thinking, “Oh, yay! I’ll now be famous!” And, I definitely never thought, “Oh, I’ll be on Oprah!” I never thought, “Oh, yay, I’ll be rich too!” (Ha ha ha! If you are a first-time author, whether self-published or conventionally-published I’m sure you are laughing your ass off by now?).
When I received my book contract, here’s what else I thought:
“I can’t wait to empower more women.”
“I’m going to meet more of my tribe!”
“I get to help others.”
“I get to live more of my life purpose.”
I never started my psychic biz to become famous. I never started my book journey in order to be famous. I think fame is overrated.
I also think that far too many people in the Western world have a fixation with famous people’s lives. I know I’ll sound judgmental, but I can’t even fathom sitting down wasting time, numbing my brain to watch television shows like “The Kardashians.” I’d rather clean my bathroom, hahaha!
Some in society, even in the psychic industry have a bit of the Rock Star Syndrome. They fantasize about it would be like to be a household name and about all the privileges that come with it. So, they might start hanging out with famous people, taking their classes and trying to get into their inner circle. Then, all of a sudden, everyone in the circle starts acting like the teacher is a rock star. (I mean, Keith Richards or Slash, they are rock stars. Not many others are, hahaha!)
When I myself took classes with well-known teachers, it wasn’t to have the association with their name. It was ’cause I just enjoyed their work. To be honest, back when I took the classes, these teachers weren’t very well-known.
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with being famous or wanting to be famous. I’m just saying that it’s not for me. I myself can’t imagine all of the effort to get there. I can’t imagine living with worries of being scrutinized. As a private person, I wouldn’t want to have to cloister myself even more. When some in the media refer to someone being the next Sylvia Browne or John Edward, I feel so much compassion. I mean, if it were me being mentioned as the next, emerging star, I’d want to be referred to as, “The next Lisa.”
The thing is, if you are so focused on fame, you might miss out on cool things and people. Your attention is focused inward, which to me, makes it harder to think about helping others. It makes your work about you, not your clients.
I say define success for yourself. Create and live by your own definitions. Have a vision and yes, have intentions to be a success, but ask yourself from time to time, “Who’s definition of success is this?” Just ask yourself as a gut check. See what answers you get.
I almost became sucked into the numbers game myself. I was measuring my success by the number of books sold, my number of blog comments, and social media numbers. Not very punk rock at all!
Yet, one day, seemingly out of the blue, I had the following thought, “What if I really helped 500 women to really kick ass and change their lives? Wouldn’t this be better than if 40,000 women bought my book and took no action?! Wouldn’t this be better than being “famous”? And, wouldn’t this be tons better than having 10,000 Twitter followers?”
WTF?! What ever happened to helping others and making the world a better place?
As I type this, I’m tempted to tell you all of my horror stories about dealing with “famous” people from a variety of fields. But, you know what? It won’t help me. It won’t help you. Thing is, that we are all human and learning. We’re not perfect. That has been my biggest lesson of the past 20 years. No one is perfect. Also, I’ve learned to never put anyone on a pedestal. They will fall down with a loud thud.
At the end of the day, I’d rather know that I really helped bring more love and light to the planet and that I helped to empower some folks from a genuine, heartfelt place.
So, you can take fame.
You can have it.
Give it to someone else.
Lisa, Punk Rock Psychic™