No, I’m not talking about some disease. I’m talking about spreading the love around, to undo the drama and trauma of life. Lately, I’m really turned off when some people share things in their Facebook newsfeeds about current events, especially ones that are really distressing.
I don’t live my life in a vacuum. I like to stay informed about world events. I tend to see the news and popular media as giving me an idea of where to send love, prayers, and healing. This information is available 24/7 on televisions, telephones, computers, in print, and elsewhere.
I guess I have a pet peeve when some people share negativity on Facebook. Last week, I was briefly on Facebook to see what was new with my family. I noticed some acquaintances sharing horrific stories from the news in their newsfeeds. I totally get that awful things happen to people. I get that some people do crazy things to each other and well, sadly, to animals. There is war, natural disasters, and all order of drama and trauma.
However, on any given day, there is a ton of good news. It just depends on which source of information that you are plugged in to, I suppose.
Some might argue that it’s Pollyanna-ish or unsophisticated even to not pay attention to the news. I’m mainly talking about the popular media. There are other ways to get your information, especially on-line. I always hear about what I need to know. For example, I hadn’t heard about the outcome of a legal case until my guitar teacher told me yesterday. I found out, but I didn’t have to hear about it in a dramatic way. It was similar to how people shared current events back in the old days, I’m sure–by word of mouth.
I hide a lot of people’s posts in my newsfeed. I’m in the process of weeding out my Facebook friends list anyway. I prefer to associate with positive people. I find that some people who share the really horrific news stories have a part of themselves that is addicted to drama and trauma. Or, they like the creepy aspects of life. Ick! That is all I can muster is an “ick” in response since I don’t want to give the drama-aholics more energy.
When you take some time to really understand how the mind works, you’ll learn about how the subconscious mind is just like a computer. It accepts whatever you give it. The images, words, feelings, and energies all get imprinted into your subconscious mind when you watch the news. It’s ironic that many people watch the news upon rising or before bedtime. Those two times of the day are when your subconscious mind is most susceptible to being programmed. Oh, and did I mention that the subconscious mind pretty much runs the show. It runs your life.
So, I like to program my mind with love, positivity, fun, happiness, and all that is good. I’m not perfect with this, but I do my best. If you are working on creating new habits, attracting abundance or health, for example, your subconscious mind is your ally. Many times, people will do affirmations, make vision boards, and receive healing work and still not get the results that they desire. It’s because they haven’t accessed or reprogrammed their subconscious minds properly. Of course, this can take a while since your old programming has been there a long time, coming from parents, teachers, society, media, and all that you have encountered so far.
Why identify with the crazy aspects of life? The negativity is just an illusion anyway. Most things in life are either love or a call for love. It all ends up being love at the end of the day.
What do you think? How do you handle the negativity that comes your way each day? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Thank you!
This video really spoke to me. I am a recovering perfectionist. (I won’t spill all of the sensitive details, but I will say that I know what it feels like to go through similar pain.)
But, the most disturbing thing about this video for me was when the conclusion in this story was that this pressure is simply internal. The pressure to be perfect that teens feel comes from inside.
Where the heck do you think it comes from? Those internal feelings of inadequacy or pressure came from someplace, right? It comes from living in society, being programmed by school, parents, institutions, and peer pressure. The programming came from externals!
Hello! Get a clue!
I feel really strongly about these issues, in case you didn’t notice.
I’m not saying that the programming cannot be shifted–it can. It requires learning how to love yourself. This can be taught, but first, adults need to be healthy emotionally and mentally. I’m not sure many parents or adults have ever learned to have a health self-esteem. I guess you can’t teach what you don’t know yourself.
I also was appalled that this was a study done by a popular teen magazine that prints photos of picture-perfect girls and women. This seems a bit off to me. I also don’t think surveying 1,000 girls is enough. I’d like to hear more voices of teenaged girls. I’d like to hear about their struggles. I’d like to see them followed into adulthood to show how negative programming affects them. This would be educational for adults who want to learn better how to help their children. Just an idea that came to me as I watched this video.
It still has a charge for me. The subconscious mind is very susceptible to ideas and attitudes. It will accept whatever it is given, much like a computer being programmed. Over time, it will shape your entire life and existence. The programming is put there by others and some of it is your own thoughts and feelings. It can be shifted with new, positive thoughts and feelings, but it can take time since your old programming didn’t get there overnight. It’s a worthwhile pursuit.
I think it would be more effective to teach about how to reprogram your subconscious mind. This could be taught in schools. Adults could learn it and pass it along to their children.
Let’s teach about love.
By the way, feel free to comment and let me know what you think about the video and what I wrote here. Thanks!
(photo by Kol Tregaskes, Flickr, Creative Commons License)
I have been on a quest this summer. It might sound really obsessive, or even quite funny. But, I’ll tell you anyway: I am here to get rid of all weeds! (Well, at least, the ones on my property!)
I don’t like to use chemicals on my lawns, plants, or flowers. We make natural concoctions or potions for our plants. Since we feed the birds and squirrels (and rabbits too!), we don’t want to put all of that yucky pesticide stuff in places where wildlife might feed. So, we don’t even use weed killer.
I’m a bit ambitious with my weed pulling efforts. I admit that I even pull the weeds out of the grass by hand. I’m really not into that whole suburban lawn or yard obsession. I just want things to look neat. I don’t want the weeds to choke out my pretty flowers, trees, grass, or plants.
This summer has been particularly hot. Some of our grass has died. No, we don’t feel like wasting tons of water to have a green lawn. It’s been interesting in the dead patches to see the weeds still grow. My god, weeds can grow any place! I’ve noticed that they even survive the winter in my flower beds (say, if I missed a couple before the snow flew).
It’s been interesting to watch the weeds poke their way up in the dead grass. Some of the weeds have pretty flowers. It begs the question–are they weeds or flowers? How do you determine this?
I have been thinking a lot lately about weeding through my mind. There are some thoughts that are so persistent and repetitive. They pop up when I least expect it. “Oh, no, you again?,” I’ll lament.
I always am amazed at how old programming will make its way to my consciousness from the depths of my subconscious mind. It might not seem like a big deal, but did you know that your subconscious mind runs the entire show? It runs your life. It doesn’t know the difference between the positive or negative. It just accepts whatever you give it. So, all of that old crap people told you growing up is in there. All of your limiting beliefs are there that you inherited just by being a human being on planet Earth. Yuck! It is all worse than the weeds in your yard!
So, what do you do? Like some people use chemicals on their yards to get rid of weeds, some people use chemicals to alter their minds, including both legal and illegal substances. Some people do affirmations or work on being positive. Some people go into counseling or do tons of self-healing work. I think you have to find what works for you and well, do it, religiously (not that I advocate religion of any kind! Ha ha ha!).
Pull the weeds out of your mind. Replace them with the “flowers” such as loving thoughts and compassion for yourself and others. Work on your belief in yourself each day. Forgive the past (which is not the same as saying what people did to you was okay). Forgive yourself. Treat yourself with tender loving care. Give back by being of service to others on the planet–even in a small way.
In modern times, it is quite easy to just medicate yourself. It can be done through anti-depressants, alcohol, drugs of every kind, food, watching television, surfing the internet, shopping to acquire more material goods, caffeine, sugar, and so on and on. Addiction is a way to cover up difficult emotions and feelings. It happens it seems when the weeds grow so much because we haven’t removed them from our minds. The weeds take over. It’s not pretty. All of those lovely flowers and plants get suffocated. Addiction will hide the real you. No one will get to benefit or enjoy you. It’s not the way to live.
I like to be careful about the new things I plant in my mind. As I pull out the weeds, I let myself express my emotions and feelings. I will journal about them or talk to someone. I’ll do something creative. I watch the words I speak. I’ll watch my thoughts about myself and others. I don’t watch negative things on television. I don’t participate in the popular media or mainstream consumer culture. I have to say that after doing these things for many years, I am happier. I’m more content. I’m okay with being me, the real Lisa.
Of course, some weeds do have pretty flowers. But, you know what? They are still weeds. Appearances can be deceiving.
As the summer comes to a close, I’ll be getting my garden and yard ready for the colder weather. Some plants do better in cooler weather. Some go dormant. It’s all part of the life cycle. I’ll still be pulling weeds–until the snow flies. The job never ends when it comes to my mind though. It’s an ongoing project.
What weeds do you need to pull from your mind? How are you going to shift into something more positive? What are you going to do?
With the Easter holiday coming, I have eggs on my mind. I’m going to color mine and have the Easter Bunny hide them.
Hopefully, in the process, I don’t break too many. Eggs breaking is not pretty. They are fragile. The eggshells are not bulletproof.
Have you ever tried to walk on eggshells? (I mean this in a figurative sense.)
It’s not easy, is it?
Mostly, walking on eggshells is a conscious decision made to avoid pain, struggle, or strain with others in your life. You might be holding back from saying what you mean. You’re not speaking your truth. It can feel a bit risky or even scary to say what is on your mind and in your heart to others, especially those you love. The thing is…If you speak from a loving place from your heart, you can’t do it wrong. You can’t control how others’ will respond to what you say, but you CAN control how you react (or not) to their reaction.
It can be equally frustrating when others walk on eggshells around you. Sometimes, people do not say what they mean. They do not mean what they say. Wow, this reminds me of the lyrics of one of my favorite songs by the group Tsunami Bomb, “Say It If You Mean It.” This song actually goes well with this blog post. Check it out here:
Relationship challenges can feel like being put through the Cosmic Meat Grinder. Sometimes, it’s not a joy to be human, complete with emotions and feelings, especially if you are sensitive. It also can be tempting to just tell people, even those you love to just f*ck off. I’m human. I’ve been there and I relate.
The thing is that relationships are a mirror of our own stuff. Everything in the Universe is energy. You attract the energies that are similar to your own. This is not punishment, but rather, similar to the laws of gravity. It just is the way energy works. Some call it the law of attraction. Whatever you think about, you bring about, many spiritual teachers say. You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. So, there’s extra motivation to be loving to others.
I’m not saying to allow others to walk all over you. I’m not saying to put up with their rude or inconsiderate crap. Just choose a different strategy. Don’t give their little drama any attention. Chances are, they are acting like a selfish 2-year-old. Let them have a tantrum and come back later. Tell them, “I’m happy to talk to you once you calm down.” Then, go do something fun and relax. Let their negativity roll off you like water on high performance fabric.
By not buying into their drama, you are being loving and kind. Believe me, as someone who is punk rock, I have a hard time with all of these ideas at times about being loving when others are not. My ego wants to fight their ego. It’s not pretty.
But, I’ve found a more peaceful way to approach things that has helped me become happier and healthier. It’s actually “punk” to me to do something different than most people. Most people want to meet anger with anger or fighting with fighting. Can you really think of a time in human history that such an approach has worked? Albert Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” He was a wise man, not just a brainiac scientist.
So, why not try something different?
I once read that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I had a big wake-up call this week about an old pattern that was no longer serving me. I kept trying to fix someone when they were angry at me. It always seemed that no matter what I tried, including walking on eggshells, I would attract anger of theirs. I realized I was focusing on anger. The subconscious mind cannot process a negative. So, if I say, don’t think about a beer, what do you think about? You think about the beer, right? If I think about not making someone angry, guess what? I’m focused on anger and angriness. I attract it into my existence.
Plus, truth be told. I’m human and I have some anger from time to time. Listening to punk rock music helps me to process and transmute these energies. As long as I don’t dwell in angry music all day, I find a big release and healing from punk rock music. Some say punk is “negative.” I’ll tell you what is negative–avoiding your feelings and emotions or stuffing them so that it gets all bottled up and unleashed onto others.
I’ve decided to more consciously work on my own inner peace. This is the best way to help your relationships become more peaceful too. Start with your own inner peace. If you’re interested in this revolutionary concept, read more about the Maharishi Effect here: http://www.mum.edu/m_effect/
Stomp on those eggshells. It takes too much energy working to avoid anger or confrontation. This energy could be used for more productive, fun things in your life. Yes, you might risk making a mess, but you’ll feel so much better.
How do you manage stress, anger, conflict, or arguments in your life? What has worked? What has not worked? Share here…Let’s talk about it