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How to Be Happy All of the Time

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After reading the title of this post, you might be wondering, “Okay, Lisa, is this really possible?”  My response is, “Hey, why not?”

I like to be my own lab rat.  After recently returning from a vacation, I decided to experiment.  I was so happy at sea, in the warm, sunny climates of the various ports of call.  It was so nice to be disconnected from technology and to feel the cool, tropical breeze.

One day, I was sitting at a bar in the Bahamas, sipping on a pina colada, listening to a band play island music.  (I rarely ever drink, especially at bars, and well, especially not drinks that cost more than $2!) I was smiling ear-to-ear, talking to nice people around me, intoxicated by the nice energies, not my beverage.  I was getting ready to go back into the clear, blue waters with the soft, white sand under my feet for some swimming as a thought occurred to me.

“Why don’t I just choose to be this happy all of the time?”

Wow, that one came crashing down on me like a rogue ocean wave.  My human ego responded with, “Well, duh…”  My spirit giggled like a little kid on too much sugar.  I felt invigorated by this idea of being happy all of the time.  I saw it as a call from my spirit.  Of course, being a bit hardcore with this sort of spiritual stuff, I responded internally with, “Okay, Universe, bring it on! Bring me my joy!”

Then, I heard, “Why not just BE joy, instead of asking it to be brought to you?”

Okay, I get it!

I thought about this some more as I swam in the crystal, blue sea.  I decided to take one of the last tenders (boats that take you back to the main ship), so that I would have time to bask in these revelations.  (Yeah, the Bahamas made it a bit easier for me to experience these moments of clarity, after leaving behind the cold weather and gloomy skies of Detroit.)

Next, I had an epiphany!  The decision to be happy all of the time is very punk rock. The rest of the world is all gloom and doom–at least according to the news and popular media.  I observe people in public who are all rushed, distracted, and working to acquiring more material goods.  It doesn’t seem like people are truly happy often.

Of course, this decision to be happy includes other people.  I have decided to shift into a place where I silently affirm happiness and love for others, even though the illusion is that they are in pain or suffering.  I can’t be responsible for their happiness, but I can give them hope.  Being unhappy in my own life doesn’t help anyone.  I have a mission to be a spiritual teacher, so people need my light (another term for happiness).  No one really wants to be around those who are grumpy,  moody, unpleasant, naysaying, negative, and what I call the Downer Debbie types (remember that skit from “Saturday Night Live”?).

My silent rebellion is positive.  Although I’m only one person, I still have a positive, loving effect on the world.  I can’t change the world really, but I can change myself.  A group of individuals being happy (and peaceful) is a force to be reckoned with, and it has even been scientifically proven via the Maharishi Effect studies (see the following link, if you want the proofhttp://www.mum.edu/m_effect/)

Here’s some guidance that I received about how to live this stuff, rather than just talking about as some fluffy idea:

1. Live with the intention to be happy. Energy follows intention.  If you wake up with the notion that your day will suck, it probably will.  Everything starts with intention.  You might need to practice this before you get there 100%.  It might take a few weeks to really feel a difference, but heck, don’t you think it’s worth it?  Your old programming took 20, 30, 40, 50, or more years to get into you.  Making a new habit only takes 21 or 28 days, depending on the research you read.  It’s such a small investment.  Expect miracles each day.

2.  Refuse to allow anything to affect your peace of mind. I used to have a difficult time with maintaining my happiness when others around me were angry, unhappy, or otherwise negative.  It took me years to realize how ridiculous I was behaving around these people.  I’d freeze up, walk on eggshells, or try to make myself disappear energetically.  This was a cause for much of my own suffering for most of my life.  When you’re strong and confident in your happiness, negative people will affect you less and less.  Your energy will become much like the air freshener spray that killed the Shit Demon in the movie, “Dogma.”  It repels them.  You won’t need to shield yourself hardly either.  Just choose to be happy instead of buying into their egos’ drama.  You can just listen with objectivity as the Observer, allowing others to rant, while you don’t allow it to drag you down.

3.  Yes, happiness is a choice. I can hear you saying, “But, Lisa, I’m unemployed/about to lose my home/about to file for bankruptcy/getting divorced/physically ill/grieving/fat/depressed/afraid…yadda yadda yadda.”  Well, I’ve given readings to people with all of these so-called challenges.  I’ve given readings to people who lost their house to a fire or who had incarcerated family members.  I could go on, but I don’t want to beat the drum of human suffering.

So many times, I heard people who suffered through tremendous adversity say, “I never knew how strong I was until this happened.”  Inside, I’d say, “Holy crap!  This makes me feel silly for worrying about my stuff.”  I once gave a reading to a woman who was fighting cancer, going through a divorce, and about to lose her kids and house.  She smiled as she sat down.  The thing is that I didn’t even see those things in her energy.  I just saw changes and that she was happy.  The client waited until the end of our session to tell me what was going on in her life.  I almost fell to my knees in humility.  I heard my guides and angels say, “See, you can be happy no matter what!”

4.  To increase your happiness, help others to be happy. I don’t want to get all Buddhist on you, but it is considered good karma to help others to plant the seeds for your own good.  Of course, you don’t do things for others with the intention that your good will come to you.  Your happiness will naturally result from the love you feel in your heart from doing good deeds.  Practice random acts of kindness.  Do one small thing each day to help uplift another.  It does matter and make a difference.

I once felt so much anxiety that it was incredibly hard to focus on much of anything.  I felt so much stress to the degree of making myself physically ill (an ulcer).  I could hardly peel myself off the couch to go to work, but I did.  I tried the experiment of doing one nice thing per day for someone else.  At first, I didn’t feel anything, but eventually, I started to feel so happy.  This happiness I felt, even though I had worries over money and my marriage.  Soon, things healed in both my financial and relationship sectors.

Wow, this stuff works.

5.  Don’t poison your mind with negativity. I refuse to watch the news on television any longer.  I refuse to listen to commercials that talk about dis-ease and horrible side effects that are worse than the actual dis-ease.

I don’t want to pollute my mind since it’s a powerful tool to create my reality.

I also abstain from gossip magazines or shows that exploit celebrity drama.  I refuse to look at popular fashion magazines that have anorexic, air-brushed models simultaneously with recipes for chocolate cake in the same issue.  I refuse to engage in negative conversations about other people.

Instead, I rebel.  Instead, I fill my life with objects of beauty, good books, healthy food, exercise, affirmations, positive people, and a mindset that is happy.

6.  Fake it ’til you make it. Try pretending to be happy.  Tell your ego you’re doing an experiment.  See how long it takes for the pretending to become real.  Happiness is a choice.  Choices and habits are closely related.  So, why not make happiness a healthy habit?  Speaking of choices, you’ll notice that you will select much different things when you’re in a happy place.  You might order a salad at a restaurant.  Or, you decide to go to the bookstore, instead of the bar.  You might finally sign up for those guitar lessons that have called to you since you were 10 years old.  And, you might find yourself giggling for no reason.

7.  Happiness is an internal thing. External things do not make you happy or sad.  You make yourself happy or sad.  It’s a choice, as I mentioned.  I’m sure you could find scores of books in which people went through hell and back, but still managed to be happy, in spite of all of it.  Your happiness doesn’t depend on how much money you make or where you live.  Your happiness doesn’t have to be earned.  Your happiness doesn’t depend on how others feel about you.

The nice thing is that you can create happiness for yourself.  What a joyous freedom to be able to do this kind act of self-love.

8.  Be okay with the so-called bad times. Yeah, you’re human.  You might have a bad day now and then.  You will experience heartache, loss, and sadness.  You might feel stuck.  The key is to not dwell in negativity.  Do your best to take care of yourself.

Do your best to see the lessons that your soul is wanting you to learn through the hardships.  Don’t take it so personally.  You are strong and you can get through anything.  Remember the times you’ve been through the ringer and got out alive.  Be grateful, even for the hard lessons.

It’s how you respond to hardship that matters.  Don’t allow it to make you go into panic mode.  Take a deep breath and ask the Universe to smooth your way.  Be okay with being happy, even when others are not.  Most of all, remember, this is temporary.  This too shall pass.

9. Honor your full range of emotions. Of course, happiness is not the only state of being.  There are other emotions and feelings.  I categorize all of them into 2 areas:  love or fear.  When you start to go into the fear end of the spectrum, just remember that something is off.  Your emotions and feelings are simply a guidance system trying to get your attention.  See what needs to be adjusted, but don’t allow the fears or negativity to pull you down.

Again, this too shall pass.

Find a way to process and release your emotions.  Again, take care of yourself.

You will find your way back to happiness.  It never really went anyplace though.  It’s always there because your true nature is LOVE.

Sending you happy blessings,

Lisa

©2011, Lisa, Punk Rock Psychic™
http://punkrockpsychic.com

4 comments to How to Be Happy All of the Time

  • Katy

    Wonderful advise! Thank you. I try to be positive all of the time, but now that I am working again it is hard to stay in the light. I try my best to stay in the light, but at the same time try to keep my guard up while at work. My coworkers are much more used to my upbeat attitude now, so they just let me “be” more and more. I am going to read your blogs at work more because they are such a nice “pick me up” :)
    Thanks again for all that you do!
    – Katy

  • Sue

    I loved this, Lisa. It’s very true–we CAN intend to be happy. I also like how you made sure that your readers don’t do a spiritual white wash and paste happy faces on their gas gauge as Abraham would say…. The gauge is there for a reason to show when you’re empty of gas–and things other than happiness are there to tell us that we’re not thinking of what we want to overall.

    I like to collect happy stories of how people turn the crap life sends them into something positive. I know someone who met the love of her life in a way that most people would consider a “negative” situation. She had cancer. She was going through chemo a few years ago. His wife had cancer too, and that’s how they met–in the chemo ward.

    A year after his wife died and she went into remission, they got together–and what could be more of a “he totally loves me” assurance than knowing that someone saw you all nauseated and bald and stuff and loves you anyway!

    xo to you!

  • Lisa

    Hi there, Katy,
    Thanks again for reading and commenting. I so appreciate it! Thanks too for the kind words about my blog. I’m glad I can inspire you at work too! Yay!

    It sounds like you are doing well with keeping your energy and vibration up. I’m sure your co-workers on some level really appreciate your upbeat-ness, even if they can’t consciously admit it. Keep up the good work! :)

    Thanks and blessings and right back at ya re: thanks for all that you do!,
    Lisa

  • Lisa

    Hi Sue,
    Thanks and love for reading and commenting on this post! I love that analogy you shared by Abraham-Hicks. That rocks! And, wow, regarding the person you talked about with cancer who turned it into a huge positive in their life! That is amazing! Thanks for sharing that inspiring story!

    Love and hugs to you as well,
    Lisa

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